Tuesday, December 4, 2012

I Peter 3:1-7: faith in God=faithfulness to your wife


It is important when we come to the Bible that we realize that it is written in a certain context.  Does that mean that we can’t relate to it today?  Absolutely not!  What it does mean is that in order to properly understand what the Bible is telling us, we have to properly understand what it told its first readers.  This issue of context is seldom more critical than when dealing with sociological issues, especially those relating to gender.  To prove my point, I’d like to share with you a literary exert from the era when I Peter was written, that may help shed some light on how women were viewed in that culture:
“How can one reach agreement with a woman?’ ‘By recognizing,’ he replied, ‘that the female sex is bold, positively active for something which it desires, easily liable to change its mind because of poor reasoning powers, and of naturally weak constitution.  It is necessary to have dealings with them in a sound way, avoiding provocation which may lead to a quarrel.  Life prospers when the helmsman knows the goal to which he must make the passage.  Life is completely steered by invocation of God.” – Letter of Aristeas
I would agree that when dealing with women, it is sound advice to avoid provocation which may lead to a quarrel.  That is a tidbit of advice that is not unique to the above passage, and that stands the test of time.  Likewise, we would agree that life is completely steered by invocation of God.  However, we would disagree that women have poor reasoning powers.  The idea that women are inferior intellectually is a relic of a bygone era.  Too many of us have received our education from women to argue that they are in any way intellectually inferior.  As the percentage of those obtaining a higher education continues to tilt in favor of females, if anything the empirical evidence would argue the exact opposite.  But I digress…  

So if I Peter was written in an era whose view of women differs starkly from our own, what if anything can we learn from it regarding the marriage relationship?  Despite its “dated”, and some would say “antiquated” nature, there are some eternal truths that emanate from the text. 

First of all, we should not judge a book by its cover, or in this instance, a woman by her outward appearance.  How desperately do our little girls, our teenager girls, and our young women need to hear this?  In a society that judges us largely by our outward appearance, how important is it for us as a church to send a message to our young women, and young men, that clothes and physical beauty are far less important than what is in their hearts.  Only a little more than ten years removed from high school, I can tell you that the things I remember most about my classmates have nothing to do with their clothes, or even with their appearance.  Believe it or not, when looking at some of the photos from my reunion last year, there were some attractive girls from my class that I had forgotten existed.  My memory of my classmates from so many years ago is centered on the relationship I had with each one of them.  It focuses on shared experience, not what they wore, what they drove, or how they looked.  If the church doesn’t advocate for the surpassing value of judging others by their heart, and the content of their character, who will?

Second, we learn that wives should be honored and protected.  The very things that make them the weaker vessel physically are also the very things that make them a blessing to society, and a perfect match for their husbands.  I know it’s a faux pas to speak in terms of weakness and strength, especially when referring to how the genders relate to one another, but what we see related in I Peter is just one side of the coin.  Generally speaking, women might not be able to bench as much or run as fast as men, but that does not mean they don’t make a vital contribution every bit as important as men.  Why do you think Peter insists on husbands honoring and protecting them?      

Third, we are taught that women are co-heirs, or equals with men spiritually.  Women are not second-class Christians.  Furthermore, by giving them moral instructions motivated by a missionary outlook, Peter shows that they have a unique role to play in the church’s evangelistic efforts.  Anyone who has spent much time around a church knows that women do a large percentage of the work.  They not only function in the roles that have traditionally been ascribed to women, but they teach, preach, and witness to the love of Christ in ways seldom recognized, but always impactful.   

Finally, we learn that for husbands, our ability or inability to honor our wives will directly impact God’s willingness to hear our prayers.  We cannot display ingratitude by neglecting, dishonoring, or God-forbid abusing the wives that God has blessed us with, and then expect beneficial answers to our prayers.  Faith is not just mental assent to a certain belief, it is living our lives in such a way that we show to others the truth of what we believe.  If we can’t manifest faithfulness in our homes, what chance do we have of manifesting it in the world?

May my faith, and my gratitude to God, be displayed for all to see in the way that I honor the wife God has blessed me with.  

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